Learn to celebrate your existence without qualifying and excusing all the things you wish you could change. Look into the mirror without pulling out all the things you hate from inside of you. Picking them apart. Measuring them. Causing them to expand and then constricting them when they do. You’ve lived for too long in …

With Ella — Lorde — her album came out and I thought it was amazing, so I sent her flowers and congratulated her on a great first week. And I get this text message from one of our mutual friends, [Rookie editor/actress] Tavi Gevinson, and she says, “Lorde is freaking out because she said some …